Balance · Observations · Positivity

Life Happens

The last two weeks have been extremely stressful. As most of you know, a tree fell on//beside our house, putting three holes in our roof. Next, a serious family emergency rocked our world. Then, we had a bad car battery. Simultaneously, we had our normal life obligations like work, house care, and relationships to maintain. As well, I just took on a considerable amount of work for Maiedae. Also, I have a book publishing deadline coming up in 46 days. ARRRRRRGGGGG!!!!! LOL.

When you lay out all the “bad” stuff that has happened recently, with all the “normal stuff” and even the “good stuff”, life can look extremely full and stressful. But, when you sit back and truly think about all the wonderful blessings that have happened because of some of those “bad” things, or even the  “normal things”, life doesn’t seem so stressful anymore.

For example, the tree is still lying on top of my patio. I could wig out about that, or (like I chose to do yesterday), I can sit at my breakfast table and watch the sunlight filter through the pine needles that are now much closer to my vantage point. I could look at family drama like a disaster, or I could view it as an opportunity for loved ones to grow and learn. I could sit and moan that my car wouldn’t start yesterday and it was oh, such a horrible experience, or I could be thankful that the battery had a warranty and I was able to get a new one for free. As well, it provided me with some really special time to spend with my dad (who is an out-of-this-world mechanic.)

Honestly, life just happens. Sometimes, it is not so fun. Other times, it’s great. But you know what? Usually, life happens and it is a mixture of all the good, the bad, and the normal. Perhaps things are easier to digest, move through, and move beyond in that way. Scriptures say that we’ll never be tempted beyond what we can bear. My husband and I like to apply that to the “not-so-fun” stuff that sometimes happens in life, too. We will never face something that we can’t get through. It may feel like we can’t at times, but those are just feelings. Feelings are great, but sometimes they overwhelm us and get us all psyched out.

If you’ve been having a stressful week or month in your life, just remember to look for the little blessings that crop up here and there. Life is hard enough without dwelling on the bad things all the time. Chin up. Watch the sunlight paint the leaves outside. Have a hang-out date with a friend. Spend time snuggling with your hubby or wifey. Sit and soak up the good things when they come. They can help you make it through the next “bad” situation that might crop up. When life happens and it isn’t necessarily the way you’d like it to, just remember that you’ll never face anything you can’t make it through.

You can do it. Whatever you are facing, you can pull through it stronger than you were before you were faced with it. Be brave. Be strong. Be gentle. Be happy. All of those things are a choice.

Thanks for stopping by today! I hope that these words were encouraging for you if you’re facing a tricky work or life situation right now. Just remember, we all have hard times. Even if you’re having a bad day, try to lend a listening ear or give a kind word to someone around you today.

Happy writing and working to you all!

~L.M.

Balance · Positivity

Managing Stress

It would be nice if life would slow or calm down when things get busy and tough, but that is rarely the case. For most of us, we have to deal with the storms of life while continuing to work and managing our relationships. It isn’t easy. I’m certainly no expert, but I’ve experienced my fair share of stress. Here are some of the ways I manage my stress levels:

1) Cry-— It is 100% okay to cry. In fact, crying is wonderfully cathartic and can help you to “let it all out”. Even though you may not look glamorous after a huge sob fest, it can still help your heart to release its tension.

2) Pray— Prayer is one of the best ways to sit down, relax, and ease your mind out of its anxious turmoil. Prayer is a way of separating yourself from your problems and stressors and seeking the direction of God.

3) Be intentional about relaxing activities— Find out what helps you to calm down in periods of stress and be intentional about doing those things. If taking a long, candlelit bath just does it for you, then DO IT. If it is reading or watching a long movie, DO IT. Go for a walk or hike. Exercise. Whatever you need to do to bring your mood up in depressive or stressful environments, do it.

4) Communicate with your significant other— Be very open about how you are feeling with your spouse or significant other, but do not swamp them with information. If you are experiencing stress, anxiety, or worry, it is important to rationally express this to your spouse, but try not to place blame or discuss other people’s faults. Simply express how you are personally feeling and be honest about how they can help you.

5) Be flexible— Tough situations call for flexibility. You really may not want to do some of the tasks involved in dealing with life disasters, but you may have to. It’s okay. Just be flexible and tell yourself that you can do it. It may not be fun, it may not be ideal, but it’s okay. You can do it.

Life is hard. Often, there are terrible, tragic, and unhappy things surrounding a lot of us. But, unfortunately, it rains on the just and the unjust. Take your life each day at a time. Remember that it is okay to make mistakes and it is okay to move on. Take care of yourself. Learn to manage your stress so that it does not overwhelm or derail you when things go bad. Breathe.

 

Thanks for stopping by today,

 

L.M.